Step 1 – Seal the Exits (Safety First)

Cut off the narcissist’s ability to convince or influence you — emotionally, physically, and digitally — using the No/Low Contact Shield so no new harm can happen.

• Example: Know what to ask, what to say and what to look for in everyone you meed so you never miss red flags instantly. For those still having to coparent, block messages, and have a pre-written “co-parenting communication script” for child-related matters only.
  Goal: Instant safety and peace so healing can actually start.

Step 2 – Break the Bond (Freedom from the Hook)

Use the Trauma Bond Deactivation Method to end obsessive thoughts, cravings, and emotional attachment, so you will never be set up to become addicted to a narcissist again. A trauma bond is an addiction.

• Example: Replace your morning “overthinking” habit with a guided visualization that detaches your emotions from their image, and run a “trigger interruption” exercise every time their name pops into your head.
  Goal: Emotional independence and mental clarity.

 💡 What do they need to believe in order to take the next step with you?

Step 3 – Rebuild You (Confidence & Self-Trust)

Rewire your identity and self-worth, strengthen your intuition, and install the Red Flag Radar so you trust yourself to make safe, empowered choices again.

• Example: Start a “self-proof list” logging three things you did well every day, practice spotting red flags in fictional characters or celebrity relationships, and run every new connection through your dealbreaker checklist before getting invested.
  Goal: Unshakable confidence and self-protection.

Step 4 – Date with Filters (Safety in Love)

Follow the Safe Love Filter System to identify healthy partners, filter out narcissists in 3 dates or less, and connect without losing your boundaries.

• Example: Agree to meet only in public places for the first three dates, if it gets that far after the initial filter, keep a “green flag journal” noting consistent respectful behavior, and politely decline any invitation that pushes your pace or boundaries too soon.
  Goal: Enjoy dating without fear of repeating the past.

Step 5 – Keep Love Healthy for Life (Narc-Proof Future)

Implement your personal Narc-Proof Blueprint and Rest Test to lock in healthy, lasting love and stay 100% protected from toxic relationships forever.

• Example: Run your Rest Test — can you fully relax around them while still feeling desired and respected? — every few months, and use your Narc-Proof Blueprint as a quick “gut check” before making major commitments like moving in or marriage.
  Goal: Safe, peaceful, passionate love that lasts.